What Happens to Them ??????

   I just wanna share, no intentions to offend one's feeling.

This morning as I have told in the previous journal, I went shopping.I caught a bus,there're few people inside ( abt 6 people).The driver women greeted me.I asked her whether the  passed Kroger. She said yes. Then, I had a seat behind her ( actually the seats are for handicap or elder people ). There's a lady with a baby sat next to me ( actually she put her bag in the middle seat ).

I had a thought to ask one more time abt the bus schedule,since I have waited for almost 1 hour.So, I decided to talk to her, showed my map and asked," Excuse me, is this the bus..." She said, "  Oo..I don't know , I don't know.  I am a new comer  bla bla bla". She pulled her bag away and didn't look at me. She didn't give me any face,avoiding to see me at all.

  I was   I couldn't believe her reaction was like that. I thought I had talked to her politely.She,as if she didn't wanna talk to me, felt disgusting and avoided me. And,there's another lady in front of me said, " Don't ask me, I don't know either. I was lost couple times bla bla bla ". I just  smiled, pusillanimous indeed,for sure. I said," Thank you ".

I was quite and a couple minutes later, they got off. I didn't believe they're new comers.They are the local people.I thought," maybe they didn't wanna talk to me,didn't want to talk to strangers ".

Agh...I tried to forget it. I got off in Kroger.I walked in and pushed my .Suddenly,I heard someone greated me saying," Hello ".I realized when he was passing me behind and I turned my back saying,"Hello,too" . I smiled to him,and he smiled back. I knew it's too late to   reply,but I didn't notice it.My mind was not there.I looked at him.He's a black man. See???!!!! I treated him nicely.But,why those 2 black ladies couldn't do that? I am not a rasist,not at all.It's just hurt when someone treats you unnicely.

Yesterday evening,before we went over Dave's home,we stopped in Francis Intl Market.I bought some tapioca,chips and bihun.Ronnie was waiting for me in the car. He said," 5 minutes,babe."   I spent more than 5 mnts there. When I was done, I went to the cashier's table.There's a big black man's standing there.I couldn't put all my stuffs, since he was standing there and the cashier was there too( they're on outside of the table ). The cashier was holding a broom and talking on the phone,and the guy was next to her. I was standing   beetween them abt 1 foot. I said to the guy," Excuse me.." He turned his head and said," What ??!! ". I was surprised!!! I said," I wanna put all my stuffs on the table ". He didn't move.He looked at me and turned back. Oho.......Suddenly,he moved and he helped me put the tapioca.Wah..he's so nice, I thought.I said," Thank you...thank you..I do appriciate that ". The cashier moved back to her table and I stood next to him.Then,

he said:" Maam, Can I have 50 cents pls?I wanna buy the card. It's bla bla bla ".

  me :( I thought he collected some money for he had helped me )

I checked my bag and gave him 50 cents.

He : " Can I have some more 50 cents? It cost 1 buck.Bla bla bla "

  Me : "I am not sure,let's see. "

I looked at Ronnie from a far,cos he parked his  just right in front of the entrance door.I wish he would looked at me.

I checked again,and I gave him maybe 25 cents ,I wasn't quite sure,cos I've been illfeel already. He looked around and gave the coins he had to the cashier. The cashier's face was different.I said to the cashier," I am done. How much do they cost ? ". The man left, I heard he said " goodbye and have a nice one ",but I was busy with myself.She said," Did he ask you some money ? " I said,"Yes. I thought he charged me cos he had helped me." She said," huhhh.....always like that! ". She didn't like,she said. Oh well, it happened. She reminded me to be careful.

I told Ronnie, he was quite and said," Baby,there's a time when you must be straight. Don't talk to strangers. You don't know what they want.Be careful with people,especially when they ask you some money."

One other day, when I was waiting for a bus, or walking, there're some guys "calling ,yelling" me from their cars.I thought I knew them,but they just wanted to disturb me, to make me surprised,by   driving their car just right on the side walk and yelled suddenly to me. Goshh....I was surprised and scared to death

One day,he told me that I was sooooooo friendly to people, outgoing person,talked to people wherever and whenever we go,without knowing who they're. Bah... I said," that's Asian,mostly Indonesian.We're known as the friendly people, hospitality is well known by world." But,he told me," Yes, I know.But,hun.... this is not Indonesia. Here, people do aware and don't wanna get into trouble.We don't talk to strangers."

Huh... no wonder,when I met new people,I greeted them,Ronnie just looked at me and smiled,said," Babe..."

I just wanna greet them,just wanna be nice without making them feel uncomfortable. But,alas... not all kindness are accepted.

Hm.....this case reminds me abt the westerns who visit Asian,mostly Indonesian. When I was there, I saw some local people treated the westerns unnicely,too.I didn't say all of them,but there're some people just don't like westerns. I said to myself," Oh Mei.. now you can feel it."

Ah...it's not nice!!!! I know know how they feel when the local people treat them unfriendly.

I told Ronnie abt my experience in the bus,and he said,"Hun, there're many reasons why they didn't want to talk to you. Maybe they didn't comfortable to talk to strangers,or they just comfortable to talk with their own people." I said," I didn't scare them, I just asked politely.But,it's so hurt,their treatment to me.As if I was a dirty person,a disgusting one."

He replied,"Babe, I am sorry to say,I didn't mean to be a mean.They hate us,they don't like other people." I said," I'm offended.I am so very sad."

I'd like to ask  why ??What happens to them ?